ATTRACTING YOUR
BELOVED
A 30-DAY INNER BONDING® EXPERIENCE
to Find and Create Lasting Love
Find the Loving, Lasting Relationship You've Been Searching For
Imagine finding someone who is kind, loving, emotionally available, and truly capable of intimacy and commitment. Someone you can be yourself with. Someone who wants to know you, grow with you, and build a deeply connected life together.
Attracting Your Beloved is a 30-day Inner Bonding experience designed to help you find and create that kind of love.
For more than 58 years, Dr. Margaret Paul has helped individuals and couples understand what makes loving relationships thrive- and what so often gets in the way. In this experience, she'll guide you through a very different approach to finding love, based not on dating tricks or strategies, but on what actually creates the foundation for a healthy, lasting relationship.
Why Do You Keep Finding the Wrong People?
Maybe you've asked yourself that question more times than you care to admit.
You meet someone and it feels incredibly promising.
They're attentive. Interested. Maybe even intensely interested.
You feel the chemistry. You start imagining what could be possible.
And then something changes.
They pull away just as you're becoming attached.
They tell you they're “not ready.”
They can't give you the commitment you want.
You discover they're not nearly as emotionally available as they initially appeared.
Or the person who made you feel incredibly special in the beginning becomes controlling, critical, self-centered, or emotionally withholding once they know they have you.
Maybe your pattern looks different.
You're the one doing all the work.
You're understanding. Accommodating. Patient.
You listen to their problems. Make room for their needs. Give them another chance. Try not to ask for too much.
You keep thinking that if you love them well enough, eventually they'll be able to give that love back to you.
Or maybe you keep finding yourself attracted to people who are unavailable from the start.
Maybe they're married, still involved with an ex, unwilling to commit, or simply too emotionally unavailable to give you the relationship you want.
And somehow, those are the people who create the strongest pull.
Meanwhile, someone who is genuinely available can feel...different.
Maybe there's no rush. No desperate longing. No need to win them over.
And without that intensity, you wonder whether there's enough chemistry.
So you move on.
And eventually you start wondering:
Why Do You Keep Finding the Wrong People?
Why do I keep falling for people who can't give me what I want?
Why do I see the warning signs and stay anyway?
Why does someone wanting me sometimes make me less interested, while someone's distance makes me want them more?
Why can I be so smart and capable in all the other areas of my life...and still feel completely lost when it comes to love?
And most importantly:
How do I finally choose someone who can truly love me and with whom I can share love?
ATTRACTING YOUR BELOVED
A 30-Day Inner Bonding® Experience to Find and Create Lasting Love
Learn how to change the patterns that have been getting in the way to love - so you recognize, attract, and become available for a healthy, loving relationship.
- 30 days of in-depth Inner Bonding training
- Daily video lessons with Dr. Margaret Paul
- Practical daily action steps
- Self-guided, so you can move at your own pace
30 Days
of guided instruction
Daily Video
Lessons with Dr. Margaret Paul
Practical Inner
Bonding exercises you can use for life
Lifetime
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The Answer May Not Be Where You've Been Looking
It's easy to assume that the solution is simply to meet more people.
Try a different dating app. Be more selective. Give someone more time. Learn the red flags. Figure out sooner whether they're serious.
And certainly, who you meet matters.
But after decades of helping people understand their relationship patterns, I've learned that finding lasting love involves something deeper.
We tend to attract each other at a common level of self-abandonment or a common level of self-love.
That means the patterns operating inside you can have a profound effect on who feels attractive to you, who is attracted to you, what you tolerate, and who you ultimately choose.
If you're afraid of rejection, you may work very hard to earn someone's love.
If you've learned to take responsibility for other people's feelings, you may be drawn to someone who is very comfortable letting you take care of theirs.
If you don't yet know how to value yourself, intense attention from someone can feel intoxicating, making it much harder to recognize when that attention isn't actually love.
And if part of you is terrified of losing yourself in a relationship, you may find yourself repeatedly attracted to people who are unavailable enough that true intimacy never has a chance to happen.
None of this means you're consciously choosing the wrong people.
These patterns often operate far beneath the surface.
You can sincerely want a loving, committed relationship while another part of you is still trying to protect you from rejection, engulfment, abandonment, or being hurt again.
And that leads to one of the most important things I can teach you about attracting your beloved:
If You Want to Attract a Different Kind of Love, Start by Changing the Way You Love Yourself.
Not because you have to become perfect before you deserve a wonderful relationship.
And not because being single means there's something wrong with you.
But because as you stop abandoning yourself, the entire way you experience relationships begins to change.
You become less vulnerable to someone who showers you with attention but isn't capable of genuine intimacy.
You stop chasing people who withdraw, or aren’t available, or aren’t suitable for you.
And you become more capable of recognizing an emotionally healthy, available person — and being emotionally available to them in return.
The frustration you've experienced in love can begin to change when you change first.
And that's the work we'll do together in Attracting Your Beloved.
Imagine How Different Dating Could Feel...
Instead of being consumed with whether they like you, you can become curious about whether they are actually right for you.
You can notice red flags and trust what you're seeing instead of talking yourself out of it.
Whether someone asks for a second date doesn't have to determine how you feel about yourself.
You can become better able to recognize the difference between someone who is genuinely open to love and caring and someone who is simply putting on an act of caring.
You can stop over-giving, performing, or trying to impress someone in order to be chosen.
You can become clear about what you want and what is — and isn't — acceptable to you in a relationship.
And you can let go of false hope that someone will eventually change into the partner you need them to be.
You can learn to trust yourself in love.
And when you know that you are responsible for your own emotional wellbeing, dating can become less about getting someone to choose you and more about discovering whether the two of you are truly capable of creating a loving relationship together.
And Sometimes, Healthy Love Doesn't Feel the Way You Expected It To
One woman who took Attracting Your Beloved met the man who would eventually become her fiancé while she was taking the course.
But at first, she didn't recognize their potential as a couple.
She was accustomed to looking for immediate chemistry.
As she continued through the program, she began noticing that he had many of the qualities we were discussing — the qualities that actually matter in creating a healthy, loving relationship.
She gave the relationship a chance.
Later, she described the love they created as something she had never experienced before:
“I've never experienced unconditional love from a partner before. It feels solid & safe.”
— Sarah
And perhaps most importantly, she said that without what she'd learned, she wouldn't have given him a proper chance.
Sometimes attracting your beloved isn't only about finding someone new.
It's also about becoming able to recognize healthy love when it arrives.
You Can't Think Your Way Into a Different Relationship
You may already understand a great deal about yourself.
Maybe you've read the books.
Done therapy.
Taken courses.
Spent years working on yourself.
And yet some of the same patterns still show up when love is actually on the line.
That's because healing the blocks to love isn't just intellectual.
It's experiential.
You have to practice responding differently when you're attracted to someone.
Practice staying connected to yourself when you're afraid of rejection.
Practice listening to your inner knowing instead of overriding it.
Practice noticing when fear is driving your choices.
Practice loving and valuing yourself rather than making another person's interest responsible for your worth.
The Attracting Your Beloved program was intentionally designed around this principle: step-by-step teaching, understanding both the why and the how, practical instruction, video support and action steps that help you actually apply what you're learning.
That's why this isn't simply another relationship course to read through and forget.
Attracting Your Beloved
A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience to Help You Find and Create Lasting Love
Over 30 days, I'll guide you through the deeper Inner Bonding work involved in becoming available for the loving relationship you want.
You'll learn more about the fears, false beliefs and protective patterns that may have been influencing your relationships without your realizing it.
You'll begin developing a very different relationship with yourself — one that helps you approach dating and relationships from self-love rather than self-abandonment.
And you'll practice what you're learning as you go, so this becomes more than information you intellectually understand.
You'll receive:
30 Days of Inner Bonding Training
Each day you'll receive a learning module from me designed to deepen your understanding of what's been blocking you from attracting and creating the loving relationship you want.
Daily Video Lessons
You'll also receive video teaching to support and deepen the day's work.
Daily Action Steps
Practical action steps help you bring what you're learning into your real life, so you can begin changing old patterns rather than simply understanding them.
A Self-Guided Experience
You can move through the program at your own pace and revisit the material as you need it. Inner Bonding Hub
ATTRACTING YOUR BELOVED
A 30-Day Inner Bonding® Experience to Find and Create Lasting Love
Learn how to change the patterns that have been getting in the way to love - so you recognize, attract, and become available for a healthy, loving relationship.
- 30 days of in-depth Inner Bonding training
- Daily video lessons with Dr. Margaret Paul
- Practical daily action steps
- Self-guided, so you can move at your own pace
What Others Have Experienced
“I didn't recognize our potential as a couple initially...”
Sarah met the man who became her fiancé while taking Attracting Your Beloved. She says she initially overlooked their potential because she was focused on immediate chemistry. As the course helped her recognize the characteristics of a healthy partner, she gave the relationship a chance.
She later described the relationship as “solid & safe” and said Margaret's guidance was the reason she gave him a proper chance.
“My dating experiences have always started off fast...and then crash.”
After a painful breakup, Kathleen had given up on dating. Her relationships repeatedly began quickly, plateaued around six to nine months and then fell apart.
Even after doing extensive personal work, she still couldn't understand what kept happening.
After Attracting Your Beloved, she wrote:
“This course has given me hope and strength to start dating again.” — Kathleen
“The first one in 7 years...”
After taking the 30-day course, Annie began her first relationship in seven years at age 40. She described the man she met as “kind, honest, open and relaxed” and connected the change to the inner work she had undertaken through Inner Bonding.
What If Your Past Doesn't Have to Determine What Happens Next?
Maybe you've begun to wonder whether the loving, lasting relationship you want will ever happen.
Perhaps you've tried dating differently, worked on yourself, and still found yourself repeating patterns you don't understand.
But those patterns don't have to determine your future.
You can learn to recognize healthy love, trust your inner knowing, stop giving yourself up to be chosen, and become more emotionally available for the kind of relationship you truly want.
That's what I'll help you begin doing in Attracting Your Beloved.
Not through dating tricks or promises that the perfect person will magically appear, but through 30 days of learning and practicing a different way of relating to yourself and others.
So when love appears, you're better able to recognize it, choose it, and help create a relationship in which both of you can thrive.
With love,
YOUR PAST DOESN'T HAVE TO DETERMINE WHAT HAPPENS NEXT
START ATTRACTING YOUR BELOVED TODAY
Spend the next 30 days becoming more able to recognize healthy love, trust yourself in relationships, and become available for the loving, lasting partnership you want
- 30 days of in-depth Inner Bonding training
- Daily video lessons with Dr. Margaret Paul
- Practical daily action steps
- Self-guided, so you can move at your own pace