Join me March 25-29 for:
A Five-Day Inner Bonding Intensive for Deep, Lasting Healing
A rare, immersive Inner Bonding® Intensive where lifelong patterns of self-abandonment, shame, anxiety, and relationship pain are finally understood—and gently healed.
Many of the struggles we face as adults—anxiety, depression, shame, self-doubt, relationship conflict, feeling stuck or unable to move forward—did not begin in adulthood.
They began in childhood.
As children, we are completely dependent on our caregivers to meet our emotional and physical needs. We have no capacity to care for ourselves, regulate our feelings, or understand what is happening inside us. When our needs are not consistently met—or when love, safety, or attunement feel uncertain—we adapt in the only ways we can.
From this wounded place, we develop coping strategies and beliefs that help us survive.
These adaptations are not conscious choices. They are intelligent responses to our environment. But while they may protect us early in life, they often become the very patterns that limit us as adults.
Even in loving families, this dynamic can occur. When caregivers were attentive and caring toward their children but did not know how to take loving care of themselves, children often absorb that self-abandoning behavior as well. Without realizing it, we learn dysfunctional ways of relating to ourselves and to others.
Over time, these early patterns show up as anxiety, depression, procrastination, addiction, chronic self-judgment, relationship struggles, and a painful sense of being disconnected from ourselves and from life.
Many people understand this intellectually. They may know their history well. And yet, the patterns persist.
This is because insight alone is rarely enough to heal what was formed, over time, in moments when we had no inner resources of our own.
What’s missing is not more understanding — it’s a way to heal these patterns at the level where they were formed.
Inner Bonding® was created to heal these patterns—not by reliving trauma, but by healing the false beliefs, dysfunctional coping strategies, and self-rejection that came out of it.
And my five-day Inner Bonding Intensive is the most effective, nurturing, and deeply transformative way I know to do this work.
This immersive experience offers what shorter or more fragmented forms of healing simply cannot: the time, safety, and continuity required for lasting change.
Join Me March 25-29th to Heal the Shame and Self-Abandonment at the Root of Your Struggles
In my nearly 60 years of working with individuals and couples, I have never witnessed anything more therapeutic, effective, or truly life-changing than these five-day Intensives.
Over five consecutive days, we slow the process down enough to see clearly—and go deep enough to heal what has been operating beneath the surface for years.
People arrive carrying a wide range of struggles, such as:
- anxiety, depression, and emotional overwhelm
- chronic self-judgment, shame, or guilt
- addictions or compulsive behaviors
- relationship conflict, disconnection, or repeated painful patterns
- a deep sense of emptiness or longing for something more
And they leave with something profoundly different: a felt sense of being truly seen, accepted, and understood—often for the first time in their lives.
Because we spend so much time together in a carefully held, compassionate environment, we are able to fully understand the roots of what’s causing your struggles—not just on the surface, but at the level where real change happens.
Together, we can identify and heal the beliefs, coping strategies, and self-abandonment patterns that have been running your life—often automatically and outside your awareness.
No matter how early your wounds began, how automatic your self-abandonment feels, or how deep your depression, shame, or addiction may be, there is a way forward.
And we will find it—together.
What These Five Days Are Really Like
The Inner Bonding Intensive is a deeply immersive, experiential container designed to help you understand exactly why you’ve been stuck — and change the pattern at its source.
For five days, you are held inside a small, intentional group, guided directly by Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, bestselling author, and co-creator of the Inner Bonding process — in an environment that is both profoundly safe and uncompromisingly honest.
“Margaret is a master at guiding you to uncover the root of your challenges with compassion and insight, creating a safe space to explore the most painful areas of the past. Her process left me with a profound sense of clarity, self-compassion, and empowerment.”
— Cathleen M., Pilates & Gyrotonic Instructor
Each day builds on the next, creating a powerful arc of insight, healing, and integration.
You will:
- Learn how your anxiety, depression, self-doubt, relationship struggles, or numbing behaviors are logical outcomes of learned self-abandonment
- Identify the specific beliefs and coping strategies you formed to survive — many of which are still running your life
- Practice the six-step Inner Bonding process repeatedly, with real-time guidance and feedback
- Learn how to access your higher guidance — that wise, loving source beyond fear — and take loving action from it
- Strengthen your loving adult so you no longer abandon yourself in moments of stress, conflict, or emotional pain
And most importantly: You don’t just understand this intellectually.
You experience it in your body, your emotions, and your nervous system — which is why the change lasts.
“The experiential nature of the program makes sure we both experience and anchor these transformations right then and there, giving us a newfound tool belt for weathering the complexities of life with grace and joy.”
— Barb Wade, Speaker & Coach
The Power of Working One-on-One — and in the Group
During the intensive, participants take turns working directly with Dr. Margaret Paul while the group witnesses the process.
As you watch others do their work, you begin to see your own patterns reflected back to you — often with startling clarity. Beliefs you couldn’t see on your own rise to the surface naturally. Defenses soften. Compassion deepens.
Many participants describe this as receiving dozens of sessions at once.
This is one of the most powerful aspects of the experience.
“It was as if I was having 30+ sessions. Seeing others’ stories helped me understand my own behaviors in ways I never could before.”
— Catherine Schulz, MD
You are never forced to share.
You are never pressured to “go deep” before you’re ready.
And yet — because of the safety of the container — most people find themselves opening in ways they never expected.
“Through all of this I always felt very safe and trusted the space. There was no judgment and all parts of me were welcome, which allowed me to be fully myself.”
— Tom Thorpe, Computer Programmer
Why This Feels So Safe (Even When the Work Is Deep)
Safety is not accidental here. It is the result of Margaret’s decades of lived embodiment of this work.
She is firm, loving, deeply intuitive — and unwilling to collude with self-deception.
“We all KNEW we could go THERE because you, Margaret, could handle anything. That is huge.”
— Valentin
This balance — absolute compassion paired with clear, direct truth — is what allows deep wounds to finally surface and heal.
Tears happen. Laughter happens. Long-buried grief, shame, and fear are finally met with presence instead of avoidance.
And again and again, participants describe something profound:
A return to themselves.
“My true self, the pure and innocent child, became so clearly apparent and vivid and now he is a part of my daily life — no longer neglected.”
— Mike Devine, Farmer
What People Leave With
By the end of the five days, most participants report:
- A felt sense that “there is nothing wrong with me”
- A real, lived connection to their inner child
- Confidence in using Inner Bonding on their own
- A strengthened loving A\adult who knows how to take loving action
- A deeper trust in their guidance — and themselves
“I can honestly say that the intensive was life changing. Despite an extremely long list of books, retreats, therapists—you name it—true self-love had remained elusive. I’m not sure I truly understood the concept or the courage required to find it. Margaret compassionately and firmly helped me find that courage, heal my blockages, and embark on a path toward truly knowing and cherishing all of my being.”
— Catherine, Participant
This is why so many people say the same thing, regardless of background, age, or profession:
“This was the missing piece.”
“My search is finally over.”
“This changed everything.”
Is This Intensive Right for You?
The Inner Bonding Intensive is for people who are ready to stop managing symptoms and start addressing the root causes of their emotional suffering. You can be new to Inner Bonding, or have worked with the process for years.
This is for you if:
- You are tired of repeating the same emotional patterns — anxiety, depression, self-doubt, relationship struggles, or self-sabotage — and don’t want to keep circling the same insights without real change
- You sense that your struggles are not because you’re broken, but because something learned long ago is still running the show
- You want to understand exactly how you abandon yourself — and learn how to stop
- You are willing to take responsibility for your inner world, without shame or self-blame
- You want a clear, compassionate, step-by-step process you can use for the rest of your life
But it’s NOT for you if:
- You are looking for a passive experience where someone “fixes” you
- You want surface-level inspiration without engaging in real inner work
- You are unwilling to feel your feelings or question long-held beliefs
- You are not yet ready to take responsibility for how you treat yourself
This work requires honesty, willingness, and presence.
For that reason, even people who have already “done the work” are regular attendees: therapists, coaches, healthcare professionals, spiritual seekers, and deeply self-aware individuals who still know something essential is missing — despite years of insight, training, and personal growth.
“I have been on a self-healing journey for over 40 years and have never come so close to knowing who I really am as I did during this intensive. This was the missing piece.”
This Intensive is especially powerful if what you’re seeking is not only healing, but self-trust — the ability to guide yourself with clarity, compassion, and confidence long after the five days are complete.
Why There Are So Few Spots (and Why That Matters)
Dr. Paul offers the Inner Bonding Intensive only twice each year and keeps the group small—not out of exclusivity, but out of respect for what this work requires.
The depth of healing that occurs here depends on presence, attunement, and the ability to hold each participant with steadiness and care. A smaller group allows Margaret to truly know each person—their patterns, defenses, and wounds—so the work can unfold at the level where real change happens.
Within this container, every participant receives direct, personal work. There is time to build genuine trust and emotional safety, without rushing, comparison, or hierarchy—only a shared commitment to truth and transformation.
Participants consistently describe the same experience: a rare sense of safety that allows them to go to the most vulnerable places within themselves and be met with clarity and care.
“We all knew we could go there because Margaret could handle anything. That level of safety is rare—and it’s why this work goes as deep as it does.”
— Inner Bonding Intensive Participant
For many, the impact of the Intensive continues to unfold long after the five days end. Inner Bonding is not a one-time experience—it’s a practice for life, and an investment in how you care for yourself for years to come.
A Rare Investment in Your Future Self
This Intensive is an investment in your emotional resilience, your relationships, your capacity for joy and self-trust, and your ability to guide yourself through life with compassion and confidence.
When you consider the years spent in talk therapy, the repetition of workshops that offer insight without integration, or the ongoing cost of anxiety, self-doubt, and emotional disconnection, the truth becomes clear:
The real cost is not attending.
So if you are ready to stop abandoning yourself and learn how to truly care for your inner world, the next step is simple.
Reach out to Jillian to explore whether this upcoming Intensive is right for you. She will answer your questions, help you understand what to expect from the five days, and support you in discerning whether this is a wise investment—emotionally, energetically, and practically.
Whether you are an individual seeking to heal deep emotional wounds and limiting beliefs, or a couple or part of a couple whose relationship is in need of profound repair, this experience is designed to meet you where you are.
You will see and be seen—fully—in a way you may never have experienced before. And you will leave with a lasting foundation of self-love and self-acceptance, equipping you to meet whatever challenges arise in the years ahead.
In my 58 years and more than 70,000 hours of therapeutic work with individuals and couples, I have not witnessed a more effective, transformational, or deeply healing experience. I hope you’ll join me.
With blessings,
Margaret Paul, PhD
Co-Creator of Inner Bonding®
P.S. What happens during these five days often shapes how people live, relate, and care for themselves for years to come. If you are ready to begin that change now, contact Jillian to register.
- jillian@innerbonding.com
- 310-459-1700
P.P.S Over 500 people have given testimonials about their experiences at the Inner Bonding Intensive.
Five Days That Can Change How You Care for Yourself — For Life
Inner Bonding® Intensive with Dr. Margaret Paul
March 25–29 | Live on ZOOM
A rare, immersive healing experience for people ready to stop managing symptoms and heal the root causes of anxiety, shame, self-abandonment, and relationship pain.
- Direct, personal work with Dr. Margaret Paul
- A deeply safe, intentionally small group container
- Heal lifelong patterns without reliving trauma
- Learn Inner Bonding as a practice you can use for the rest of your life
- Leave with clarity, self-trust, and a strengthened Loving Adult
To inquire or register, contact Jillian:
- jillian@innerbonding.com
- 310-459-1700